To make a choice is to decide; to decide is to make a decision. Once a decision is made we must live with that decision but so many times we cannot. Why, because we did not decipher the signs God showed us. We didn't listen to our inner spirit. We wanted to be assertive on our own understanding because we feel we always know best. In order to make it to the next checkpoint or the higher level we must decipher the signs God shows us and move forward.
Recently, I heard a story about a relationship that extremely disturbed me. I cannot go into great detail of the story but I will say this; the couple was linked up for the wrong reasons and suffered a great loss. This makes my heart rate beat faster than it should because I know if each party analyzes their relationship they both would agree they should not have been together. I don't want to break this down too elementary but I WILL.
First, men (and women) why can't we gradually evolve with a person? We all seem to be instant relationship seekers. No one wants to even try to be friends first, then boyfriend and girlfriend, to then be married. We just go from she's fine to we're together and later we break up, literally. I don't get it. What I do get, not many of us are deciphering the signs. Here's what I mean…
Men, if you see a woman and she is the most beautiful thing you've seen, especially in a long time, and her attitude does not match the innocent and pure beauty God created her with, she's not it. If a woman only does for you from time to time and once in awhile she'll show you some appreciation, she's not it. If a woman cannot be 100% supportive but she gets on your case about supporting her every chance you get then she's not it!!! Ladies your turn…
If a dude cannot trust you and he has no reason not to, he's not it. If a man is not pursuing any goals in life but expects so much out of you, he's not it. If a man is not trying to do the small things for you when you are in a committed relationship, you can only imagine what else he will not do; thus he's not it.
Men, we must change this. I know we see the gold diggers, the high maintenance, or the Ms. Independence. We have to learn how to see the signs God shows us and stop ignoring them. If you know you are at a checkpoint in your life and the person you are interested in is CLEARLY at a checkpoint behind you and is not working on getting to the next level in her life…why date her? Why leisure in pleasure with her? Why make yourself committed to someone who is not committed to you? If you have a woman and she holds a grudge against you, she argues with you because she wants to be right every time, or she has no respect for your goals, beliefs, and value, why submit yourself to such a woman?
The point of stages in relationships is to see how the person reacts to life with you in it. If you are going thru the worse hell of your life and the so called "friend" aka soon to be boo is not there why would you elevate the relationship to making her your girlfriend? Right, you don't. If a person shows they are not lax with putting effort to get to your checkpoint in order to reach the next checkpoints with you that is the sign to not involve yourself. If we could better decipher these non-puzzled glued together fake picture perfect relationships we would not have secret abortions, STD'S, materialistic marriages, and unbalanced spiritual relationships.
Men know what you want. See the signs. Decipher. Let God lead you to the spiritual woman you deserve. The only thing to decipher then is how much better tomorrow's love is than todays.
Until next time.
Peace and love.
